Embracing Our Imperfection
Let’s face it: none of us are perfect. While we might try to spin imperfect into “I’m perfect,” reality often reminds us otherwise. Life has a way of exposing the cracks in our armor, and relationships—especially in the context of ministry—often highlight just how flawed we all are. The truth is, we’re all a little prickly.
In my journey through entrepreneurship, corporate work, and full-time ministry, I’ve encountered my fair share of “prickly people.” These are the ones who seem to have a knack for pushing buttons, offending others, or unintentionally causing pain. Sometimes, it feels like dealing with a cactus—every interaction leaves you poked, prodded, or scratched in ways you didn’t expect.
But here’s the thing: while it’s easy to identify others as prickly, we often forget that we, too, have our own set of thorns.
The Reality of Prickly Ministry
When we talk about ministry, we’re talking about the church. And yes, even among Christians—those called to love and serve one another—you’ll find plenty of prickly personalities. These individuals require what we often call “EGR,” or “Extra Grace Required.”
Their flaws seem to stand out. They offend us, frustrate us, and test our patience. They bring their wounds and imperfections into every interaction, and we feel the sting of their thorns.
But let’s pause for a moment. Isn’t that exactly what we bring to the table too?
Looking in the Mirror
It’s tempting to focus on the faults of others, to justify our own behavior while pointing out the flaws in those around us. I’ve been guilty of it myself—quickly listing reasons why I’m right and others are wrong, why certain Christians are “too difficult,” or why I’d sometimes rather do life with unsaved people because they seem easier to get along with.
But the truth is, I’m just as prickly.
The Bible reminds us that “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). We’re all broken, all in need of grace. Just like those prickly people who have hurt me, I carry my own set of flaws, my own set of thorns. And if I’m honest, I’ve probably pricked others more times than I’d like to admit.
Choosing Grace Over Judgment
So, what’s the answer? How do we navigate relationships with prickly people in ministry and beyond?
It starts with humility. When we realize that we’re no better than the people who frustrate us, our hearts are softened. Instead of seeing someone’s thorns, we start to see their humanity. We begin to understand that they, like us, are navigating life’s wounds, wrestling with sin, and trying to walk out their faith.
But understanding isn’t enough. We’re called to action:
Be quick to forgive. Don’t let offenses fester. Extend grace as freely as it’s been given to you.
Seek to understand. Instead of jumping to conclusions, ask questions. Learn someone’s story—it might just explain their thorns.
Love relentlessly. Jesus loved us while we were still sinners, and He calls us to do the same for others.
And remember, Jesus wore thorns for us—thorns that represented our sin, our flaws, and our prickliness. He bore the pain so we could walk in freedom.
Hope in the Midst of Imperfection
Life will always include prickly people. But instead of letting their thorns keep us at a distance, may we learn to lean into grace. May we choose to see past the sharp edges and offer love, hope, and forgiveness.
Because at the end of the day, we’re all people. Imperfect. Broken. Prickly. Yet deeply loved by a Savior who wore our thorns to give us life.
So, the next time you encounter a cactus-like personality, remember: you’ve been there too. Offer them grace—and maybe even a hug. Just be careful of the thorns.
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